You don’t have to be 50/50 to be bi. That’s not how attraction works. That’s not how any of this works.
The myth of the bisexual coin flip (the idea that you must be exactly equally attracted to men and women to qualify) is one of the dumbest things that survived long enough to become a talking point. Attraction isn’t a spreadsheet. it doesn’t need to balance.
Who Gets to Count
I’ve had people tell me I’m “basically straight” because of who I’ve dated. I’ve had people tell me I’m “actually gay” and just don’t want to admit it. Both of these people are wrong, and also none of their business.
Bisexuality doesn’t require proof. Doesn’t require a particular history or a particular ratio or a particular current relationship. It’s an identity, not a performance review.
The policing of who is “bi enough” comes from inside the community as much as outside it, and that’s a problem we need to sit with. Gatekeeping queerness is not queer liberation. It’s just a different door on the same closet. And I am so tired of closets.
I’m bi. I’ve always been bi. No further documentation required.