The church told me I was broken because I liked boys and girls. The world told me to pick a side. I wrote “Both / Neither” instead.
Bisexuality isn’t a phase. It isn’t confusion. It isn’t a cry for attention or a stepping stone to something else. It’s a complete, whole, fully-formed identity. And I am done explaining it to people who don’t want to understand it.
The Church Had Opinions
The church told me that my attractions were a temptation to be resisted. That if I was with a man, I had “chosen right.” That my other feelings didn’t exist if I didn’t act on them. this is not theology. This is gaslighting with a cross on it.
What nobody tells you is that erasure from both sides is its own kind of violence. The straight world wants you to be straight. Parts of the queer world wanted me to admit I was “actually gay.” I exist in neither camp and I don’t want to, tbh. Both / Neither is the whole point.
This song isn’t a coming-out anthem. I’m already out. This is a stay-out anthem and it’s me refusing to disappear into a relationship that looks palatable to either side.
You can keep waiting for me to pick a lane. I will continue to take up multiple lanes. This is not a traffic violation. this is just who I am.